My process for white wash oak staining. I apply the white oil and sand down to the wood. The white stays on the grain and the I apply a hard wax oil finish.
This is an example of traditional oak lacquer finish, spray applied to rustic oak.
This is an example, of old matted French Polishing and wax finish.
Water based white patina, sanded to stay on the grain and fire retarded. Lacquer finish.